The Difference Between Self-Love and Self-Care

The internet has granted such deep level of access to people’s privacy with no end in sight. People are reckless airing every detail of their lives.

In a world of social media, we are exposed to a lot more than we ever asked for and much more than the capacity of our human brains. We are connected to endless streams of information. Our minds are continually processing data, our heartbeats are barely keeping up with the rhythm of reality, and our heads are overloaded with news. Needless to say, the exposure to this magnitude of information has two sides: one is ‘enlightenment’ and the other side is ‘loss.’ Social media comes with a negative connotation, an appearance of a lack of self-care. But it’s not bad after all. One benefit of social media today is now we can get a much better glimpse of people’s lives. We’ve managed to win front row seats into lives of strangers, loved ones and, fortunately, those we call heroes.

This level of access to other people’s personal lives has also given way to promotion and motivation. The internet has granted such deep level of access to people’s privacy that some have capitalised on this type of access by influencing and making an impact in their communities and around the world. Social media is only evil depending on how you use it and the purpose of use.

The impact of social media

One of the impacts social media has is that it has given favour to the promotion of the ‘Self’ concept, whether people are having trouble understanding the ideologies of ‘Self’ or the concept of ‘self’ is perverted. Narcissism isn’t a crime, but it can be perverted, meaning power lies in each one’s hands, and actions depend on motives.

There are two ideas that are driving the ‘Self’ concept: 1. Self Love 2. Self Care. As much as we love ourselves, each one of us misuses these ideas often. There is a reasonable gap and a fair distinction between Self-Love and Self-Care. Although they both carry the same concept, they have a different impact and one purpose, which is to fulfil ‘Self.’

What is Self-Love and Self-Care?

I am going to try and to explain both ideas in the simplest form to the best of my knowledge. We use both ideas most of the time, and it’s essential that we understand the differences for our benefit and those around us.

Self-care.

What is self-care? Someone who practices self-care dedicates time and finance for their well-being. i.e., caring about yourself could mean exercising for a healthy living lifestyle and that is very important. For some it could mean, eating well and respecting their diet for the sake of their health. Self-care involves spending time and resources on what brings happiness, joy, and growth. For some it could mean, spending money on a lovely holiday, going on vacation. Self-care could mean buying yourself that lovely house near the beach to complement your lifestyle or spending money on a nice car or a beautiful watch.

Moreover, for some it could mean, putting time aside to finish that course or degree. Self-care could mean committing to therapy or rehabilitation. Self-care is a sacrifice for a better change. It is a process of becoming a better version of you and changing what you don’t like — fixing what is broken — doing what nobody else can do for you. That is self-care.

Self-love

However, self-love is strictly different, much more straightforward and ordinary then self-care. What is self-love? Self- love is the appreciation and acceptance of the reality of who you are as a human being. There are a few things in life we can change, but there are lots we can’t change. Some have become slaves of ‘trying to change’ the unchangeable. The majority of us sometimes grapple with accepting the reality of who we are. Many labour tirelessly to change their reality, but that’s not self-love. Self-love is a joyful gift to self.

Self-love is about accepting yourself for who you are as a person not whom you are trying to be. It is not about creating something you would love, no no. It is not about becoming somebody or something you would admire or accept. Self-love is about coming to peace with yourself. Reconciling with that side of you or that reality of your life of which you might be ashamed. Anyone who exercises self-love is someone who is not striving to be somebody they are not. Self-love is becoming ok with yourself. Self-love is accepting your weaknesses, your imperfections, and your defects. It is about celebrating your real self. Also, it’s about taking pride in who you are because your Creator takes pride in you. There is beauty in weakness and brokenness. Nobody knows you as you know yourself. Therefore, you owe it to yourself to love/accept yourself.

Why Celebrating Easter?

Easter brought salvation. The significance of Easter isn’t the fact that Christ Jesus resurrected from death. The first Easter brought forgiveness

It is that time of the year again we get to celebrate Easter habitually. If you stop and ask anyone why they celebrates Easter, the standard response would be: ‘celebration of Jesus’s resurrection.’

That’s right. Easter is significantly marked as a festival people of faith galvanised, to celebrate the resurrection of Christ Jesus. So for some, Easter is a time of the year they celebrate Christ’s heroism. However, there is one significant question we are all often naive to ask: Why did Jesus/hero have to die and resurrect?

However, before we get ahead of ourselves, we need to understand first why Christ came to earth, and the question to begin with is:

Why did Christ come to us?

Jesus came to Earth because of Sin. Jesus came to save humanity from Sin. In the entire multiverse, Only Jesus Christ was worthy to come and save us all from Sin. A sin is an act of disobedience toward God, and it resulted in separation from God. Jesus’s ultimate mission to Earth was to bridge the gap between God and us; to restore humanity’s relationship with God.

Sin entered the world through Adam and Eve, the first human and the roots of humanity. The autobiography of Adam and Eve is not a Disney fairy-tale nor ordinary allegory. It is a story full of allurements. Built on the foundation of a phenomenon and supernatural occurrences. Adam and Eve’s story historically stands as a significant etiology, that evokes a sufficient explanation to the dichotomy of life and the existence of imperfection here on Earth. This act of disobedience led to a relationship break up between humankind and God.

The repercussion of sin

The existence of sin within humanity meant human beings were not worthy to acquaint with God no more. Sin has affected humanity for billions of years, and it is the prime reason why our world today is not perfect. Adam and Eve’s abuse of ‘free will’ subsequently afflicted human moral nature forever.

Sin is transmitted generationally and contaminates life from birth. Most of us are conceived, born and live in sin. This distorted nature called sin is inherited by each one of us; a state over which humans have no absolute control.

But God…..

Despite humans’ nature of Sin, God’s greatest desire is to acquaint with humans and dwell in eternity. God’s dream is to live with us, but unfortunately, due to our sinful nature, He had to use an ultimate strategy to restore us closer to him and restore the entire universe to its original state.

The ultimate strategy to restore humanity required an ultimate sacrifice for sin. Moreover, this is why Christ Jesus came to earth. Jesus Christ was the ultimate sacrifice for sin. The sacrifice of Christ Jesus brought forgiveness on humanity. The sacrifice of Christ Jesus moved God’s heart and made God forgive humans nature of sin once and for all. The basis of Easter rests upon the fact that Christ Jesus came to earth to end the dominance of sin. Cleansing humans and reconciling them back to God. The death of Christ on the cross was the ultimate sacrifice for sin for all. If sin was a debt, Christ paid the ultimate price. If sin was a disease, Christ brought the cure. Moreover, if sin was a prison jail, Christ brought the key for rescue; and that’s how the first Easter happened.

That first Easter

Easter brought salvation. The significance of Easter isn’t the fact that Christ Jesus resurrected from death; in fact, history records that Christ was not the first or the last human to die and resurrect. The significance of Easter is in the fact that Christ Jesus became a sacrifice for our sins. He chose the bloody execution to bear our punishment of sin. His blood spilled to cleanse humanity forever. He carried our sins on the cross to crucify its power forever. Death was sin’s greatest punishment and prison for sinners, but Christ Jesus defeated death and turn death into a doorway to eternity; exclusively for those who accept Christ Jesus as their lord and saviour.

It is a big deal

Easter is not another holiday celebration on the calendar; Easter is significantly a memorable day historically for Christians (Christ’s follower). We celebrate a saviour and a hero who lives. During Easter we remember the labor of Christ Jesus for our sins. We celebrate Easter with joy because Christ set us free from the power of sin and its punishment. The first Easter brought forgiveness and victory over sin. His suffering and labor birthed forgiveness over sin for humanity because Christ is the son of God.

Easter iconically reminds us of God’s demonstration of love and commitment to humanity. Easter is a time of the year we commune to celebrate together as One because we are saved by One blood, One body and One man Christ Jesus. As Christ Jesus said:

“do this, in remembrance of Me.”

This is why we celebrate Easter: Easter is a celebration for the reconciliation of humanity and God by Christ Jesus’s death and resurrection. Also is an end to the powers of sin and punishment for those who believe in Christ Jesus. The blood of Jesus birthed forgiveness which is the grace we are converted with.

Happy Easter!

The Mythical Nature of ‘Striving for greatness’

Everyone wants greatness, and everyone desires to be great, the whole world strives for greatness but what is greatness?

Each one of us is born to fulfill a purpose. Each one of us is born with intelligence and unique abilities; equipped for the journey here on earth. Each one of us is created and designed for a special mission and deliberately entrusted with a race, skin color, and unique talents. Indeed each one of us carries something nobody else surprisingly has. Each one of us is wired distinctively different with exceptional instincts and perspectives. You are living on earth at this very moment strategically for one specific mission. Concocted DNA to form a custom ‘you.’ Purposefully paired genes to create who you are with a unique personality. A categorically distinguished destiny is pulling every individual.

Now, the goal is to reach our destiny, and we reach our destiny by being great. However, society has twisted this equation and made us believe that ‘Greatness’ is ‘destiny.’ Meaning, we ought to strive to reach the highest pinnacle in life and call it greatness. That’s a lie.

The truth about ‘Striving for greatness’ in society.

‘Striving for greatness’ is not what you think it is. ‘Striving for greatness’ is a self-centered motivational slogan people use to accomplish their goals and be esteemed above others selfishly. The equation for ‘Striving for greatness’ is simple: ‘Striving for greatness’ involves destroying everyone and climbing on their backs as ladders to reach the highest pinnacle of life. How many people have we seen in our societies robbing, killing and destroying others for success?

In nowadays people view greatness as success. Meaning, greatness is a ‘reward.’ People are now accustomed to achieving something to earn an induction into the Hall of Greatness. But that is incorrect. We don’t accomplish something to be great; instead, we need greatness to achieve something distinct.

The human life principle suggests that, we can’t achieve anything in life if we don’t have greatness. Meaning, we need greatness to succeed. Greatness comes first, and success comes after. Achievements and accomplishments are the byproducts of greatness.

The global society encourages us to chase after greatness so we can distinguish ourselves from others. Sadly, that mentality causes us to labor hard to look different, burning out hard to be better than others on the basis of achievements. ‘Striving for greatness’ makes us think others are our competition.


The very fact that we describe greatness as accomplishments; we now torture ourselves to accomplish more to prove something. Sometimes we strive for greatness to prove ourselves right to people who don’t even care.

The Global Society has accustomed us to view greatness as:

The cars we drive
The jobs we have and promotions
Friends we have
Relationships and partnerships
Marriage
The house we own and the places we live
The amount of stumps we have on our passports
How much we have in our bank accounts
The level of studies we have achieved and our qualifications
The churches and the club we are members of
Number of followers we have on social media

Greatness has now become tangible things we own. We have been able to differentiate between who is great and, who is not great on the basis of achievements. As a result,  If that is what ‘Striving for greatness’ is all about then, we’ll call it selfishness. But, If greatness is what you need in order to achieve something, then greatness is not tangible.

Greatness is something that is within you. Greatness is a machine, the drive and the energy behind your achievements and accomplishments. The perfecter of your crafts is greatness within you. What has already set you apart is the greatness in you. The unique ability in you is greatness. Therefore you don’t need to go striving for greatness. There is already greatness in you; all you need to do is turn into yourself and unleash that greatness. Each one of us is wired, built, created with greatness. The unique instinct, sensitivity, energy, feelings, and intelligence is what sets you apart from everybody else, and that is greatness.

Greatness is a special gift each one of us has inherited. Let’s use greatness to fulfill the very purpose we live for. The Urban dictionary describes ‘Greatness’ as the deeds of people who make this world a better place and, also those who contribute to a greater purpose than themselves. In other words, those who care for others by using their abilities to serve others ( providing purpose to those who have no purpose). The real essence of greatness is seen through what we do for others. In fact, if striving for greatness is all about making you better than others, then that’s selfishness. Let’s use the greatness already placed in us to make this world a better place and change other people’s lives.